It is easier to find men available for sex rather than women because the idea of honour is attached with a woman, and that involves judgement from the people around.It is just done for the sake of finding a sexual outlet, these men do not necessarily find each other attractive.Research suggests that men may engage in such a behavior because of the following reasons: You must be super masculine”, he went on. Dominating a woman is easy, but you’re dominating a guy. It makes you super-straight,” says Ali speaking with Xtra. “In Pakistani culture, having sex with a man - as long as you’re the one penetrating or “the top” - means you are the epitome of machismo. At the end of it all, everyone gets married to a member of the opposite sex and nothing is spoken about,” shared Qasim, a researcher, while speaking to BBC. Sex between men will be overlooked as long as no-one feels that tradition or religion are being challenged. This is often seen as a part of growing up and it can be overlooked by families – it’s the idea that ‘boys will be boys’. “In Pakistan men are discouraged from having girlfriends and so often, their first sexual experiences will be with male friends or cousins. For people who have access to the internet, one can also find men using gay dating applications. It is also common knowledge that such things occur, to the point that it is internalized by the people of these areas. This can take place at locations like shrines or laborers sleeping together after a long day at work. Men having sex with other men obviously happens within a private setting, like bedrooms but many often indulge in sexual activity in public spaces. MSM is a scientific term used to refer to men who have sex with other men, usually straight It’s understandable why they are resorting to this option and also, no one will have to live with the “shame” of being labelled as gay (the shame attached to the term gay is another story altogether) because when you say that you’re having sex with men because you can’t find a woman, you’re not gay, right? So, straight men need to have sex one way or the other and since women cannot easily participate in the activity, they end up sleeping with other men in Pakistan Source: It is considered okay if a man does the same because well, honor is only linked to our women.
This could primarily be because of religious injunctions and also because of the popular belief that women are the honor of the house so the realization that they could be engaging in sexual activity will bring shame to family. But it is no secret that people cannot as easily engage in intercourse as elsewhere in the world. This means that sex is also a very important part of our needs. As they say, the human beings are an exquisitely social species. Yes, while this may come as a surprise to many of you but it does happen.
However, that in no way means that the vast majority of the people in this country abstain from having sexual relations.
Even the discussion about liking someone is on a very surface level because majority of the people only ever get to be with someone after they get married. The idea of liking someone from the same gender or both is not entertained at all. The only sexual relation that is publicly acknowledged in Pakistan is men liking women and vice versa The scope of sexuality is not limited to only these three types, but for discussion purposes, I am going to limit it to these three. We can barely imagine anyone ever admitting publicly of liking someone from the same gender or both. The only kind of sexuality that is talked about is heterosexuality.
Discussions about sexuality other than heterosexuality are largely absent in the country.